[mom/step-mom]

As for the posting, I clicked "preview reply" it is right next to the "submit reply" button.

As far as biomom goes she doesn't pay child support (there is a current order for her to pay), has never written, sent pictures, cards or any other communication. She has only made phone calls. The last one was May of 2003, befor that was Nov. 2002 and July 2002. I do have the exact dates and nature of each call documented. We have never discussed the issue of me adopting sd with biomom. We think that would upset her and she would start making the effort she should have been making for the past 3 years. Plus our abandonment chance would go out the window and my poor sd would be emotionally scarred in the process.


Biomom's mother, my sd's grandma, does send a Christmas card every year and has even called leaving a message asking for DH or myself to feel free to call her back. And sd's sisters' dad knows where we live and has our phone number. We do send both people pictures of sd from time to time. They live in the same town as biomom. Biomom is the one who moved out of state, we live in the same town my sd was born in. We have lived in the same house for 2+ years. She knows where we are. We never know where she is, last her mom (the grandma) told us she (biomom) was living in a park with her boyfriend. I came here looking for guidence and advice. I would love to share my story if it helps you to see why we are looking in this. Thank you both for your replys.