[HappyMomAnna]

If you are going to allow sleep overs at other peoples homes then there would be several things I would do.

First of all I do not know about your state but in mine before the Adoption Was final I was not permitted to leave my children anyplace even for an hour unless the person was approved and passed a back ground check. I know that some states are not as worried and set the standard that you may leave the child with someone who you know "could" meet the min requirments of a Foster Parent--Like at least 18 and someone you 'believe' would pass a background check. The only exceptions we had were that we could leave our children with "FAMLIY" members who are over 18.

ALSO--I would personally let the childs caseworker know whne a 'foster' child will be sleeping at someone elses home, who they are, the address, and phone number.... At least for documentation. I was MOLESTED and later Raped at a sleep over with my Cousin and later my brothers and I were placed into Foster Care for several weeks while the state figured out HOW it all happened--This was FAMILY--people my parents KNEW their whole lives..... I personally would NOT want to deal with DHS if I allowed my children to sleep at someone elses home and something HORRIBLE happened....and HORRIBLE things do happen when we are NOT there to watch.

ALSO--If you plan to allow a Foster Child to spend the night at someone elses home I would make sure this family understands the situation of your child.... My 6-year old daughter cannot even play in other peoples back yards because she has behavior issues that OTHER FAMILIES DO NOT understand and shouldn't be expected to... If you don't have behavior problems that might not be as big of an issue---But the OTHER families should know some background because sometimes our children TALK about thier pasts....

This can SCARE other children--My niece had nighmares for weeks after actually coming to understand Makala's life situation... and the family having the sleep over needs to be equiped with the ability to handle a situation or call you for advice... Some of our children have NO Problems talking with their peers about things we have not even talked with them about.....Things can come out and often when there are sleep overs more things might come out.

Either way I think you need to ask the CW if this is OK too and what the CW advises.