[jamie3]

Have all rights been terminated? If so, you are the one with the right to make these decisions. I would for sure change their last name legally to match yours. I am will to send pictures a couple of times a year, but I am not willing to have visitation. I think it would be so hard on the kids while they are little. I will allow them to find their bmom when they are older, but for now they do not have the emotional resources to deal with visits with her. jmho