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I received a flyer for an adoption party event that invites already matched up families too. I suggested to my fd that we go, thinking free food and a chance for her to be with "similar others" would be nice. She wants to go, but her mission turns out to be to choose a sister for herself! I've told her I'm not ready for that, and that her caseworker wouldn't allow us to have another kid yet (not sure that is true, but I don't want her to think all she needs to do is talk me into it), and that we couldn't afford to pay twice the summer-camp expense. But she still seems determined to shop for a sister. She is 7 yrs old.

Has anyone taken their foster/adopt kids to these kind of events? Do you think she'll realize when she is there that it isn't really a place to just pick out a sister? Or can a 7 yr old not be trusted not to suggest to some kid that they can come home with us, even though its been explained to her that we would not be allowed to make overtures to any kids?

If we do go, and she sees the books of pictures of waiting kids, what do I say if she asks questions. She was not in a book, how would the books/pictures/process be explained to a 7 yr old who is a legal risk child with strong hopes of getting to go back to her birthparents?