[ccemtp63]

I'm looking for advice from foster/adoptive parents. I am a single mom with a 3 year old son and 16 month old foster daughter. We were almost to TPR when mom decided to give consent. Great news except she is requesting an open adoption. Due to her history of drug abuse, anger issues, lack of participation in her daughters first year of life, and tendency to leave the state (frequently) I have some serious concerns about an open adoption. Such as pictures twice a year. I'm not trying to act out of spite or revenge, I'm just really concerned for my daughter's well being. Especially as she gets older. Another request is that her first, middle, and last name remain the same although she can use my last name, too. Why not just tell her where to come and pick her up when she wants to see her?????? No, visits are absolutely not an option. I'm trying to be cooperative, but I think mom expects too much when the adoption is final. She wants the right to send cards and gifts each Christmas and B-day, however she didn't even call to ask about her daughter this Christmas and barely acknowledged her first birthday. I'm afraid the gift giving won't last and my daughter will be let down, HARD. Am I expecting too much? Any help is greatly appreciated.