[HappyMomAnna]

I can only assume feelings of other people based on how I might feel.... I have never been in the situation of visiting my child who was living with another family--or who I might have taken away from me eventually--But I can imagine I would not wish to be all that nice...Especially if I felt (rightly or wrongly) that something had been done wrong--that there is a mistake and that I should have my child...

It is not likely that most of us would be-friend someone we saw as the enemy or an agent of the enemy...Right now to her you are the STATE and you are the people who are demanding her to make changes and choices and you are part of the system that might decide to end her rights as a mother...

My children's birthmother was not nice to the Foster Family in anyway--but, when I picked the children up from their good bye visit birthmom was very nice to me--she thanked me and I assume that was because I never entered the picutre until the TPR was done--I assume to her I was not the enemy.

Remember that many mothers losing their child to the system have many serious issues... Some of these moms have mental health issues, or are so messed up with drugs they do not KNOW how to 'act' normal--if they did they would most likely be home with their child not visiting a child currently in Foster Care.

I just say, continue to take the high road and smile, say hi and take what you get.... maybe you could write her a note?

Are you wanting to adopt the child or are you just Fostering?