[GretschDrummer]

WOW!!!! So many responses! That is why this forum is SO awesome. Though we may all not agree, we know this topic is important.

Thank you to everyone who particiapted and prayed about this. It really helped to get advise from those who have "been there".

To update, our family did throw a shower for us. I knew they would. But the co-workers have not.

One person here offered advise to send birth announcements to encourage poeple to think about offereing our child a shower. My wife and I did this. No luck. Basically people just emailed back and said congrat's.

As stated before, I have been asked to participate and send money for others showers. So I must say I was expecting the same for our adoption.

I agree with others commets that this is for our child. So to be a little bold is not bad. But I am not willing to demand a shower. An open house is probably what we will do. In the invitation, we plan to ask everyone to clip coupons for us so we can get the things we need. This should spark some help. This also lets tham know that we need help.

As always, thank you SO much for all advise. This place is GREAT!!!

God bless you all!