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I was adopted by my grandfather and his second wife. I say that specifically because there in lies the problem. ... I won't go into all the awful details, but to the grandmother who has just adopted her grandchild... do consider being complete and constantly honest with him. It's awful to wake up one day and ask yourself why everyone always seems to lie to you ... only to realize that the first person to lie to you was the same person who was supposed to love you ..... and probally insisted that you NEVER lie.... If it were me, but IT IS NOT ME - I know - But still, I would not ever allow him to call me mother... there is nothing wrong with being called grandma.
Think of it this way:
everyone lies a little... to the cashier at the store who might say something about must be a special occassion and you say yes even though it's not.... but you lie to people who don't matter nor effect your life... you do not lie to people you love and respect. I hope that includes your grandson.
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