[ingrid12]

hi gudrun
thanks for fowarding this info on to yur adoptive father....i found my birth mother almost 25 years ago! it was not hard to find with the adoption papers from germany and the information they provide. there should be a number on the relinquishment papers, that is the number that a person has to use to register in each place they move to. i wrote the city and the registery with the number and they were most helpful in finding her! i wrote her and included copies of all my papers pluus some fotos of me as a child...she wrote back about 3 months later. unfortunantly she did not want to have contact....funny as germans are, they are very private and anything like this would be a horrible thing. i was born a year after you and that would be 10 years after thewar....many horrible things happened then...and babies were abundant. my mother was in a refugee camp.....where she met my father.....so she tells me....and that is part of the reason why she probably does not want to have contact. i have written several other times and one of those times she sent a foto of herself and some medical background...nothing else....about a year ago i looked in the german phone book and noticed that she was listed and not her husband...which tells me that he had probably died...thinking that she would want to have contact i wrote and she did write back, kept the fotos i sent, but still didn't want to write. that is ok...i understand her situation.....a bad one i am sure....i think that one day we will meet.
i have not been to germany eighter.....would love to go. there is so much involved with being a foriegn adoptee....there is the whole thing of a ethic background and totally different culture!
i was 6 years old when i was adopted and lived in an orphanage in stuttgart for those years....have come to find out that the orphanage is there but is run by other people now.
my mothers maiden name was schuldes...elfrieda maria schuldes. her sisters name is anna maria schuldes. my name at birth was ingrid anni schuldes and was changed to heidi when i came to the us. i have always hated the name heidi........so i changed it to aneesah when i was 30........now i am thinking of changing it back to my birth name.....i love ingrid, so very me and so very german!
i would love to know if there are any other siblings....i am sure that it would be differnet if they knew that i was here....but i think that they do not.
thanks for writing back and i wish you all the luck inthe world in finding your birth mom....sounds like you father is supportive.
look on your papers if you have them and see if there is a registery number on them.....i could send you some addresses that i have that were very helpful to me.
the search process in the us is not very good with foriegn adoptions....i did it all on my own.....if you want the addresses let me know and i could send them to your e-mail.
good luck!