[bromanchik]

I am not encouraging forced obligation, but education. Many people act out of ignorance rather than indifference or malice. I think if he spoke up he might have a load of people who actually want to give him a shower, but do not know how to approach it out of fear of saying or doing the wrong thing. Letting our friends, family and co-workers live in the dark is certainly not going to help them and it is certainly not going to help our child either.

I have found that you get what you expect from most people. If you expect respect, care and consideration you will get it. Sometimes you have to speak out. Let people know what your needs are.