Hi just had to jump in here. Not only did we not have a shower thrown for our daughter we were told not to have a welcome party because it was inapproprate after we brought her home because even though TPR had occured and we had signed the intent to adopt contract she was still a foster daughter until we finalized the adoption. Looking back now I think that was more hurtful to us than anything.
I was just wondering is your situation a straight adoption?
I was thinking if it was how about baby announcements? This is what we did.
"With all the joy our hearts can hold help us welcome" and then tell them all about your pride and joy. Maybe that will clunk them in the head
After we sent them out people started sending things for her.
Also, when we finalized my hubby passed our chocolate cigars at work.