[Rosies42]

Well I adopted my grandson at 5mths old and believe me there is love in his life. My 21yr old daughter (his mother) is a wonderful human being but she was not a mother. She knows this. She had a wonderful future ahead of her and made a mistake, no I shouldn't of wrote that. He is definitely NOT a mistake, he's a wonderful,loving,beautiful child that we're proud of. I had a little girl 7 mths before he was born so it wasn't 'too' much of a hardship to double up on bottles,diapers and love. My daughter comes and visits and treats both 3yr olds alike. I do extend some alone time with her and him whenever possible because I want him to know she does love and care for him but cannot take care of him. He will know someday that she is his birthmother and who is his birthfather (who calls me weekly). I still have a great relationship with her and always will. I do nag sometimes but we made a deal that I only get to do it once a week for 10min.LOL. He's had alot of health problems (hearing loss, asthma, enlarged tonsils and adenoids) that we're taking care of but he'll come out of everything with time. She couldn't of handled raising him as it's definitely taking my husband and I everything we can muster to keep him healthy and spoiled. Both 3yr olds want for nothing and I can thank God that HE brought him into our lives. I think of it as "MORE LOVE FOR ME!!" I'm alittle selfish that way. God gives us a life and we have to have problems to learn from. If you got lemons, make lemonade, I have. I had a terrible childhood,BUT it taught me to be a wonderful human being and mother. Have a good one, Rosie