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Kids do things for many reasons. We adopted two girls at the age of 11 and 12. One cuts herself and she tells me she is trying to cut the pain out. My youngest has physically attacked us many times. She said she is afraid we will abandon her and that maybe we can't handle her. She was in many placements and each one failed. She figured we would do the same. I let her know through words and actions that we are big enough to handle anything she puts in our way. Kids hide things for fear of losing. Maybe they had to fend for food. Maybe their needs weren't met. Taking away things from my girls never worked because they had so much taken away that they built a "so What" wall. Love has changed her. A different way of parenting but it is working. You can pm me if you like. love4
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