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I was given a shower by my coworkers and a shower by a friend and sisters. But, ONLY the first time. My first was 2 yrs. 4 mos. when I got her. My second was 13 months and a boy. The only thing I had for him was a booster chair and a portable umbrella stroller. Everything else was too big or for a girl. Well, my family offered a shower but I felt uncomfortable letting them (not sure why!). The coworkers in my department (new location-same business) finally had a very small (6 including me) shower 4-5 months later after I brought home my sons bio sister. Again I had nothing for this child. She was a 4 month old girl. I didn't have a crib, stroller, carseat, tub, bottles, diapers, nothing for an infant girl. I guess the novelty just wears off after the first or second child. I do have some very close friends who gave me hand-me-downs of clothes, a carseat, and a highchair. I appreciated it more than anything they could have bought me. I am a single parent and do need to watch every penny. I guess because I must appear very much able to take care of myself, noone thought that I might need or just want a little attention or help. I have learned that my neighbors and family and closest friends mean a lot to me. They helped when I needed it. Work friends are simply coworkers. They have a job to do and may not be able to or think of having a shower for "another" baby.
I do agree that you "deserve" a shower. How can anyone in your office think that an adopted baby needs less or doesn't need to be recognized like any other "new" baby. Shame on your coworkers!!
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