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Thanks everyone for your responses. We ended up being chosen as one of the three families for the sibling group!! However, that excitement didn't last long. They called us yesterday and asked a few questions. Thirty minutes later the adoption specialist telephoned us to say they had chosen another family. The very first question they asked us was if we were a licensed foster family, which we aren't because we just started looking into this.. our focus has been on international adoption. They also questioned us about both of us working full-time. We work full-time because we don't have children yet, so why WOULDN'T we?? I nicely replied that I will be taking 3 months off of work, then work 2 days a week, one being a Saturday (husband will be home) then the other day, he will stay home with the kids because his job is flexible and can allow this.. so we stressed on the phone with them (as well as it's on the last page of our homestudy) that we are going to ELIMINATE the need for daycare. My husband and I have also been divorced before and I feel like this was a strike against us, even though our ex-spouses were the ones who left, they are the ones who had the extramarital affairs. My husband and I have been married almost 5 yrs and have been through a great deal together and all that we've been through has made us a stronger couple. We also have God as the center of our lives, unlike when we were with our ex-spouses. Anyway, I was devastated. I really wanted those boys. My husband is 40 and I'm 37. We thought about becoming licensed foster parents but have decided to just stop this route. If we foster and a child is placed with us, then the child goes back, then our hearts are ripped out again. We have been through so many difficulties just trying to have a child. My husband is getting really tired emotionally of it all. So, looks like we're just going to wait the possibly 15 more months for a referral on children from Colombia. We've spent so much time and money on it. I can't believe how difficult it is to just try to have a child. Some days are harder than others.
Patty
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