I think there will be questions either way. I never knew my bmom and now would love to know but in my personal opinion I think I might woulda been confussed if by bmom woulda been a part of my life growing up. Kids have to bond with whoever their guardian is going to be. Chances are they would bond better with their bmom rather than with the people who are going to raise them. I'm nothing like anyone in my afamily and I figure if my bmom is like me then that definatly woulda been who I woulda been closest too. Does that make any since??
That's just my opinion I really don't know cause on the other hand it could be looked at like just that much more love that child will be receiving!! The real question may be if all the adults involved are willing to share this child with each other. The aparents may not want too. It may make it harder for the bmom to let the aparents raise the baby with their ways and values if they differ from how the bmom would do it. It could turn into a big contaversy and do the child more harm than good.
But like I said this is just my thoughts I'm no expert by any means!! Just alot of stuff to really consider before making any decisions!! GOOD LUCK though!!
Later,
Courtney
