[lisa191]

Thanks,
Yeah, I don't know how old you are now, but I was thinking about that too( "asking your bmom"). I think it is really important for a child to know they are adopted, and to know that they can see their birthmother, learn about their heritage and what not.. but when it comes to the teenage years I can totally see a child yelling at their amom saying how they wish they could just be with their bmom.. or say that the amom doesn't know anything because she's not their real mom.. I'm not sure though. I kind of had a rough time during my teenage years with my mom and am sure I would have used some nasty remark like that just to get her angry. I didn't mean to change the subject from "successful adoption stories," but I am really interested in adoptees' ups and downs as I think about giving my child up.
I have heard so many wonderful things about open adoption though. Are you completely against it? Open adoption doesn't necessarily have to be face to face. Sometimes, at least for the bmom, this can be really painful.. is what I heard.. But open adoption can also mean letters and pictures, just to let the child know that their bmom did not "abandon" them.. which I fear greatly. I suppose though that if the amom and adad do a really good job raising their new child they will grow up feeling loved no matter what, and know that their bmom gave them up for a good cause. so.. what do you think?
lis