[prolife4life]

It so angers and frustrates me when I read that women (and others) think abortion is justifiable, understandable, and is even encouraged for rape. I hear stories about genetics...that the baby has the rapist's genes and may be a violent rapist too. I hear that women who concieve out of rape are carrying a "monster" or a "demon"...something evil that deserves to be destroyed and gotten rid of.

I find it bitterly ronic that when a woman is pregnant, those who support abortion tell her it is her body, her right, her choice...her baby and she can do with it what she wants! But when she is pregnant from rape, it becomes the "rapist's baby". Well, isn't the baby part her too? Why is the male partner totally excluded as unimportant UNLESS he is a rapist or unless she decided to have the baby, inwhich case his wallet is required?

It is EXTREMELY insulting to me to read over and over that there are those who think just because my daughter was not concieved out of love, she has no right to be alive. As if her life is of less meaning and value simply because of the crimes of another. She is innocent, just as her birthmom was innocent, yet there are those who support enacting capital punishment against her whe she was not at fault.

I also read insulting posts towards the original poster because of her age...that when she was older she would know better and likely support killing children concieved of rape...and how could she really understand as she was young, hadn't been raped, or carried an unwanted pregnancy to term. My daughter's birth mother was raped at 13. She was being coerced into aborting her daughter by friends, family, and the staff at the abortion clinic. The doctor told her if she did not concent to an abortion she would die (not might DIE...would die!). He told her no one would want a bi-racial rapist's baby and that at 20 weeks, the baby isn't formed yet!!! They wouldn't let her see the ultrasound, didn't teel her her risks, any fetal development info, or her options...nor did they explain the procedure. At 20 weeks, she found herself ont he table, in the stirrups...AWAKE. They were beginning to perform a 2nd trimester D and E (live dismemberment) abortion that takes about 20-30 mins on a 13 yr old rape victim who had not been dilated prior by lamineria!!! WHen he couldn't get her dilated due to her being so tense, he wanted to put her to sleep, but her mom sisn't have enough money so they sent her home and rescheduled the abortion for a week and a half later. Luckily, before that day, she recieved information that is invaluable if she was to make an informed decision. After all, what good is choice without truth and knowledge? Ont he day of her resceduled abortion, she chose life instead and later us as the adoptive parents.

She and her family grew to love this baby...feeling her kick, seeing her ultrasound pictures. After her birth, you can see the love in the eyes of those who desperately tried to abort her...you could see the love in the eyes of a girl...a young lady...who had courage and strength beyond her years and who clearly adores this baby! They don't see a monster. A demon. A rapist's baby. They see a beautiful, flawless, innocent, precious baby girl and they love her! They have no regrets and have offten expressed relief that she was not aborted. Just because the situation wasn't ideal, doesn't mean this baby wasn't lovable or precious or deserving of life and a future.

Will we tell her about the circumstances surrounding her conception? Absolutely. It will not be easy, but we hope to raise her to be secure in the knowledge that she is loved and that she is valuable. That she is a child of God...HE is her Father. That the acts of another do not determine who she is. Bottom line, she would be dead if her birthmom decided to have the abortion. She wouldn't be put on hold for a better time. She would be dead. But as it is in our arms. SHe is loved and growing up...smiling, laughing, LIVING. Her b-mom is watching this baby blossom and she loves her too. She didn't deserve to die. She deserved to have a family and a future. She deserved respect and her b-mom deserved better than an abortion which wouldn't solve the problem or erase the rape.

Thanks for listening.