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be blunt
Hi everybody,
I am so glad this topic came up today. I have a son who is 13, in 7th grade, and a daughter who is 9, in 3rd grade.
I am a 38 year old birthmother to my 19 year old son, and we are not yet reunited.
I made my younger children aware that I have an older child that I relinquished. My husband and I shared this with them 2 years ago, fearful that they would hear it from a relative.
I only use my personal example with my own children, because I don't want them to endure the heartache that I've gone through. I am more explicit in conversations with my son than my daughter, as he is that much older. It hurts me a bit to use myself as a bad example as far as irresponsible sex is concerned, but, I think they see the light.
Also, tonight, there is a 15 year old girl posting on one of these forums that she wants a baby, and she has decided to get pregnant. Well, I didn't really hear the boyfriends intentions / opinions, and how scary is that.
I sat my son down at the computer and we read her messages together. I explained that even though a girl may say she is covered by birth control, she may not, or the method could fail, so he needs to take responsibility for himself. This girl's decision is going to decide the fate of her boyfriend. I also again went over STD's, and why a condom, purchased by the guy himself, is so crucial. (These postings made me very suspicious of what someone can be capable of to get what he/she wants.)
Above all, I pushed abstinence as the best way to go, but I felt that I had to cover all my bases.
I was really blunt. I got numerous eyerolls, and a couple times he thought we were done talking and he tried to leave the room. My hope is that he will think about what we discussed.
You know, once I started talking, it wasn't that difficult for me. He was really embarrassed though.
I will take comfort in knowing that neither my husband nor I had this kind of openness, education and concern from our parents regarding the dangers of sexual relations, and that is why we take this approach.
Hope I didn't go on and on too much. It was just so strange to see this post and the post from the 15 year old girl labeled "I want a baby".
Peace,
LeeAnn
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