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Hi Elle,
I am a 38 year old birthmother of my son who is 19. I have 2 more children, a boy, age 13, and a girl, age 9. I just want you to know where I'm coming from.
Can I ask you a question? What do you want to do with your life professionally? Do you want to go to college?
What does your boyfriend want to do professionally? Does he want to go to college?
My husband is a very hard working man. I also, work very hard, and I went to college nights and worked days, because a high school diploma just wasn't enough for mere survival.
When my 2nd son was born, I was 25. I worked days, and my husband's schedule was all over the place. I can remember rocking him to sleep, then getting things ready for the next day, washing bottles at 11:30 at night, waking up for feedings. My daycare expenses were nuts.
Here is my point. Pursue your education to support your dreams first. When you have a great paying job, it takes so much pressure off of the daily commitments of raising a baby. I have friends who went to school in the medical field, nursing, physical therapy, that work part-time and make enough to support their family. They get to spend alot more time with their babies than I did.
In their cases, you can literally buy time. They make twice what I made, so they can be home more than I was.
I know that this seems like lecturing, and I'm sorry if it does. It's just such a huge decision, and yes you have the power to make it. There is plenty of time for you. Please don't do anything rash. You have your whole life ahead of you.
Peace,
LeeAnn
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