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Elle,
Ok, if I were in your shoes, I'd be thinking, "Everyone is treating me like I'm a little kid." I'd be irritated as hell and reluctant to take anyone's advice.
You have a 19-year-old boyfriend (who has a car and a job), who wants to get you a promise ring; and a summer job lined up, right? And you mentioned homeschooling-- are you currently being homeschooled, or was that only going to happen if you turned out to be pregnant?
In any case, I'll admit that all of these things suggest you are an older-than-most 14-year-old.
HOWEVER (and this is a big however), I still have to say, I just do not think it is a good idea for you to get pregnant right now. For many reasons.......
One, you'll be missing out on a lot of your "youth" time. You mentioned going to college: don't you want to be able to go to a party once in a while, join a sorority, maybe a sports team, hang out after classes and talk with people... not rush home to a child?
Two, it is possible that you are not done physically growing, yourself. It is very hard on a still-growing body to have a baby.
Three, when you have a baby, it should really be about providing a good home for that baby. I am not saying this to you just because you are 14... Women much older than you have made the mistake of having a baby to fill some ill-founded desire of their own. It is NEVER a good idea.
Four, I think it would be really hard on your relationship with your boyfriend.
Look, if you ever want to talk, please pm me. I agree with Brenda that it might be good for you to talk to someone about this-- school counselor?
Nicole
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