[aMarylandfamily]

It's me again!

A friend of mine used Biofeedback for two of her four children (all ADHD - possible Bi-Polar) during crisis periods involving their parents divorce - one it worked great for - the other not at all ... so like most everything in life - trying it would be a gamble.

Have been thinking about you since posting this afternoon - hoping my words relayed my message which basically is caution but determination to get these children services should be your priority (and I would hope the caseworker too) without the pressure to finalize ... kids with these needs are very hard to place and can guess that if these needs were presented to you today you would have to do some careful thinking and they would be a conditional placement ... which is ok. Just remember - they now have record that you know what their needs are and if they can get finalization done without any conditions (i.e., a clause for financial assistance for mental health needs as they arise) then they do have you and you won't be able to request services beyond that point.

A family we are close with who also does foster care took in a girl, age 10, with similar needs as a foster-to-adopt placement with the hope they would be the difference only to encounter the need for residential services shortly after placement (about 3 months) where the child did wonderfully - exceeding goals, expectations, etc. only to return back to their family and within about 3 months time go into a major regression ... removed and placed within a group home situation where she is blossoming and prospering again beyond anyone's hope ... so yes, these kids can succeed and do well and even lead successful and productive lives once their level of comfortable in and with life is identified and they stay within those realms ... not easy for us to undertstand as we like you are here with open hearts and open homes to love, care and share and they fail but reality and once accepted the proper energies can be directed in the proper routes.

Again wordy -sorry - hope this helps alot of those emotions that you are experiencing ... remember as I said to love while getting help at whatever level of care is love with courage and you have lots of it ... for now and the future - today, tomorrow and maybe even next week!

Take care.