Thank you Sarah and Michelle! and Sara I know all to well how we can get sometimes during the wait!
So vent away!
The reason I'm asking is we are looking at moving to Virginia sometime in the next couple of years and we are planning on adopting at least one more time. So we are trying to figure out if we should hold off moving a little longer and adopt in Ca. again or wait until after we move.
I haven't shared any of the info I've recieved from you all yet or the PMs with DH, but for me after hearing how the process works in Virginia I'm leaning toward sticking with Ca. for our next adoption. There are several things about the virginia plan I don't care for and I guess the biggest is that you can't have help with the facilitation of the adoption.
I knew they wouldn't go for an actual facilitator, but I thought for sure like in Ca. you could hire an attorney or agency. I just assumed the states main gripe with failitators was that they are not licensed, but I guess that's not the case since you can't work with anyone licensed or not!
It just doesn't sound like a very adoption friendly state.
Thanks again for the info!
Judy