[Wilsonta]

The kids have been in counseling the entire time we've had them. The foster parents had the older one in therapy, but we insisted that both needed it. After having them for 4-1/2 months, we found out that the older one was preping on the younger one. The therapist who was already seeing the older one for a year MISSED this entirely. Even though we felt they had a good therapist who was concerned, we decided to move them to work with someone who had more of a specialty with sexual behavior. The older one has started group therapy as well so he goes twice a week. BUT, what I see is both kids "playing the therapy game". It seems to have NO impact on their behavior. And from my reading & research, this is true for RAD kids. If you don't have a foundation to build on, you can't accomplish anything - you have to go back & rebuild the foundation. And right now, I feel the therapy is "standard" building on no foundation. And the therapist doesn't really understand or see everything I am telling him. For instance, I told him how the younger once has told my husband he's going to chop me up when he's big. The therapist didn't seem bothered by this. He seem to feel it was normal. BUT, he has thoughts of killing, etc. alot & it is NOT normal along with all the other symtoms of RAD. I'm just saying until we can assess them properly by an attachment specialist, I think therapy is going NOWHERE!