[Gwen]

I have a teenager (teenagers are generally all I have taken) who have been with us for over three years. She has RAD and has never fully attached to any of us. Although she loves all the occasional relatives that drop by. She has visits from mom (monthy...which cause huge problems.) and will be here until 18. Due to the judgement made by the courts she is unadoptable so that she can still have access with mom (got to love those lovely Canadian rulings)!!!
Here is the problem...much like most teens in care (mine and those around me) they run when they have had enough. My teenager did this last night (although a first for her) because she just hates not being a normal kid. She has been in care more than with mom and has had enough. This, she has explained, has nothing to due to me in particular but just being a foster kid in general.
I am lost on how to "make it normal" or "help her like it" I think she is normal (she has a job, is involved in the community etc....)