[marygrace]

Does anyone else frequently hit upon the belief that when one is adopted you suffer no loss-and that there should be no feelings of anger, grief, sorrow, hate, confusion, abandonment, etc. etc. because "you were given a family" and your adoptive parents are your "real parents" now?

I have always felt out of place within my adoptive family and I have had numerous problems and issues to deal with because of my adoption, yet so many people aren't willing to acknowledge that I lost my mother and father, and for that matter all my extended blood family.

That's why I'm so glad to come to a forum like this, and see that I am not alone when it comes to seeing the downside of adoption for the child.