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Our bio kids were old enough that we didn't have any sibling rivalry or jealousy issues. They both loved having a brand new little baby and all the attention that our family received around that. My husband made a point of doing lots of activities with our older kids, while I was home with the baby, so they didn't feel like their lives had been put totally on hold for their baby brother.
Because older children and sibling groups often come with complex backgrounds, I don't think you can really compare the transitions around that to an infant adoption. I've never adopted an "older child", but I would expect it's quite different.
Once your application is submitted, part of the process will be attending the "adoption classes" (sorry, not sure what they call it now). In that process, I'm sure nitty gritties around what to expect will be covered.
Just stay open and follow your gut. Get clear about your boundaries and make sure the sw's are giving you ALL the information about waiting children (unfortunately, they don't always do that).
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