[mamasoon]

Hello, I am in desperate need of some advice here. We are foster adopt for 2 little boys 9 mos and 3 years. 3 year old was in the same foster home for 14 months. we have stayed in contact with previous foster mom but the child has not had any contact. He would ask about them and we would talk to him about things but in the most recent few weeks has not mentioned them at all. He has been with us since the beginning of Feb. Well last week, foster mom called and said she wanted a visit with him. My own personal feeling was that it would not be beneficial for the child because I feel like he was adjusted so well and actually had just finished his first week of no 'pee' accidents during the day. Well we called our CW to ask what to do and she suggested a call. We let him talk to her on Sunday and he didn't really say much, they had the phone on speaker and were singing to him. He seemed to be fine after the call also. Well Monday at Daycare he got into trouble 5 times, for hitting and also for throwing food. We talked to him about it and everything seemed to be fine well yesterday, he charged at another child at daycare and knocked her down because she had a toy she wanted. I am so distraught, this is not like him at all. I called CW and she suggested I call foster mom to see if he had ever behaved this way and she said no but he had never been in daycare either. He stayed home with her all day. CW also suggested that maybe he needs counseling. He has been fine until now, I'm not sure adding counseling now is going to help matters when I really feel that time has been healing his heart. I don't know what to do, I want to do the right thing for him.

thank you in advance,
Kathy