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Hi everyone, I have 3 bio kids 14, 16, 18 and they are wonderful, responsible people. I get so many compliments that they are respectful and actually like being with their family. But I have to remind myself that what works with them and their back ground isn't the same for our 2 foster/adopt boys ages 2 & 4. They have been in the system for 2 years. That's not as long as some but long for most of your life! We've read some, went to classes and have come to "I have control, you have choices." The 4 year old tends to just decide he wants to go down the street and does...he has to be reminded he can't just do. He's learning!!
We ask him, "Who is the mom and dad?" Whose job is it to decide that...I love what was said, "The one who asks the questions is the one in control." We love to answer "why..." with why do you think...I know the warnings of 5 min. 2 min. now, is recommended but if it isn't working quit doing it, if the result is a battle,xcf\ change tactics. These boards are very helpful! The boys like to jump and all too. If you jump on the furniture you sit on the floor. Respect our home, lack of respect means you don't get use of ... Creative parenting~!