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Hi Dad,
I chose my battles at the beginning and still do. The important safety related issues are non-negotiable and need to be followed or the activity stops. I started looser when we came home for a number of reasons and then tightened the reigns more and more. This was due to language barrier and lack of trust and just wanting to establish basic trust before my daughter saw me as a drill sargeant!
With my bio son, I was and still am much more lenient. He didn't need the strict enforcement of rules that my daughter does or the lessons in appropriate behavior. Since my daughter was not exposed to so many of the social situations she is now in, she needs the short course on behavior in the outside world. My son just learned these behaviors being with me from birth.
I tend to be a more mellow parent by nature and so parenting my daughter is more difficult for me. I am working on using stricter parenting techniques and correcting behaviors as soon as they arrise. It has been a lesson for both of us!
Hope this answers your questions.
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LilyMoon
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