Glad you bumbed up your post!
With us-we have a sibling group of 4.
In the beginning I chose my battles-we all were adjusting and I was a new parent.
My middle child-began to act much differently than her siblings. Professionals would say she was ADHD-RAD ect-(not True) her outbursts were louder and more aggressive and at times I thought she was really a nasty kid and maybe I wasn't the one to parent her-I thought she hated me.
No matter what I ask her to do or not do she did the opposite-life was hell and this kid was only 3 at the time.
Out of all four kids this child pushed the limits-She began to win all battles (she was the only one having a war) and when I reached my limits I found the right doctor to treat her aggression and bizarre behavior when he dx her with BiPolar disorder.
At this point she is stable and there are no more outbursts or horrible behaviors-she is a great kid.
Here we are 5 years later and I really don't have to choose my battles. The kids are well adjusted-they know the rules but kids are kids and try to push them-we just go with the flow and as long as we are all happy, everyone is safe and not breaking down the house, we are happy as clams these days.
I hope this gave you some info.
I babbled on so much I don't think this post made any sense.
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