[girls3]

In my experience, being honest is key. While sometimes it seems hard to do, remember the child is the most important part of this whole adoption process. When I was pregnantwith my son, I had a totally different name picked out for him. And when I finally made the decision to place him for adoption his parents gave me 2 names one for a boy and one for a girl, since we didn't know what I was having. And then I asked if his parents would name him after my brother if the baby was a boy. My brother's name is Brett and they named him Austin Brett. My brother was a very important influence in my life and I felt that they would raise him to be the kind of man my brother is. Also, I see my son once a year and we live in the same town. SOmetimes we run into eachother which is awkward to say the least. But, I feel you need to know exactly what kindof adoption you want and what kind of birthmom you want to be involved with. We never forget about our children that we placed, we just would like to know that they are ok and well taken care of. I know that some bmom's only want semi-open or closed so if that's what you want then go for it. Otherwise leave yourself open to new experiences you never know how you'll feel after the baby is born. Just my thoughts. Thanks.