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Is it too late?
Hello Sarah,
I saw your post on the adoption forums. I am a brand new member and I am not truly adopted. I stumbled across the site while searching for my birthmother. When I was 13 or so, I found out that the woman I had called Mom my whole life was in fact, my step mother. The sibling I had always called baby brother was also my step brother. My father had been married twice before it seemed.
So, when I was busy telling my little brother that the reason we looked so different was because he was adopted. (Busy being the cruel older sister I suppose) they asked me to come into their room. They decided it was time, I guess. Now, I didn't search for my birth mother right away. My head was subsequently filled with stories about how she wasn't able or ready for me and had been very irresponsible. My father (I didn't recognize the emotion at the time) was and still remains very bitter about my birth mother. But the main reason I didn't try to find her right away was how much the telling of the story hurt the woman I know as Mom. My now "stepmom". She was distraught and terrified that I wouldn't love her anymore. I just loved her more for caring so much. So, out of respect to her, I waited until I was an adult to begin my search.
Because of irrelevant reasons, I moved out of my house when I was almost 17 years old. I have been supporting myself alone ever since. I am now 21 and working full time. Because of financial reasons, I was not able to continue college, but it still remains my goal to receive my PhD one day in Psychology. I do not have the funds at this time to hire a service in search of my birth mother. I have been using every resource on the internet I could find. I recently found out that the information I was given by my father could very well have been tainted by his memory and anger. While I still love my parents very much, we do not have a close or trusting relationship any longer. All the concrete information I have is this:
1) Her maiden name is Teresa Renee Mowell
2) She should be about 42+
3) I was born in California
4) She was in the Air Force
5) She lived in Hawaii
6) Her parents (my birth grandparents) name are Gene (jean) and Dolores. They have divorced.
7) She has remarried.
That is all I know. I have found many records of her up until her name change, and then I am at a loss. I want to find her for many reasons. One, I wish to see the woman who gave me my brown eyes, chubby cheeks, and dreamy stare. Two, medically it would be beneficial. Three, finding her would fill a lot of holes in my personal history.
If you can not help me or have already helped as many as you can, I will completely understand. This is a wonderful thing to do and no matter what, I would love to hear from you and the stories of those you have helped. Thanks for listening and I hope to hear from you soon!
Sincerely, Jennifer Karen Lynn Buchan
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