[Kassidysmomma]

I don't understand why everyone is being so judgemental against the woman who kept the birthmother with her to keep her from people trying to change her mind. Think about it people...pregnancy causes definite hormone changes. It would be very easy for people without the best interest of the baby in mind to convince the birthmother that she could take care of him or her. And then what? What if she changes her mind and then 15 months later her child is taken away by the state and noone in the family can get custody because the baby has been beaten by a boyfriend and neglected by her???? I say this only because it happened to my best friend. She knew she couldn't be a mother and was going to give her son to a very nice family and then her "family" changed her mind. But where were they when she couldn't take care of herself and her son? And then when she lost him? They were nowhere to be found. I think as long as the adoptive parents have the child's best interest at heart, there is nothing wrong with them not wanting her to change her mind. Please understand that those of us adopting love the child so much from day 1 that we can't think of him or her in any other way than as "ours". Congratulations to those of you adopting-and to those of you strong enough and loving enough to give your child the chance with a family that will love and nurture them. I know that it hurts, but it is not only the best gift you can give the adoptive parents, but also if you are not able to raise a child, it is the best gift you can ever give your child. And anyone that doesn't like it-tough!



"I'm so thankful that my birthmother cared enough to give me the chance at life by giving me to MOM."
-quote from my sister-adopted 21 years ago