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hey matt..and other "happily adopted" kids out there..
as a bmom who has found her daughter, and has discovered that she was raised by what seems to be a wonderful family, and has access to wonderful opportunities in life...summer home on a high-end island/ semester abroad/raised in a well-to-do surburb, etc...
Having such a safe/secure/loving family now, how does that make you feel about connecting w/ your bmom...like you're slapping your aparents in the face by turning outside of the home they've provided for you?? or adding to the love that you already have from your afamily, and wishing to connect and let your bmom (parents?) know how thankful you are for the life they gave you, and the decision they made to give you up and how well things turned out. ?
this is what i'm wondering, and can't quite figure out in the case of my daughter...and i know it's an age-old dilemma of the adoptee..the torn allegiance between afamily and bfamily. I think the point is especially amplified when the afamily has provided an extraordinary life for the adoptee..leaving them w/ the feeling "this is the thanx we get for giving you everything in the world anyone could ever ask for?"
any thoughts on this are a great help to me...
thanx!
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