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It looks like we will get together on Friday and have pictures taken and maybe do lunch. I am just getting into this scrapbooking thing a little (I'm not super creative) and thought maybe I would work on a individualized baby book for our daughter's birthmom's new little baby.
Amy Rae: Our daughter is 22 months old and full of energy!
lilifelover: There are some of us who do things like that. A's birthfamily was here for her first birthday, we get together every month or so. Her birthmom calls about once a week now, I was at her baby shower, and she called me several times during labor with her new baby, and we get to babysit overnight later this month! Some times it is an odd relationship and we are still figuring things out, but honestly, she is a part of our family. People say the dumbest things to us as well when we talk about A's birthmom. "You mean you SEE her?" "She sees the baby?" "Why would you want to know her?" HELLO!!!! Why would I NOT want to know her? She gave birth to my child! I sometimes forget how people still view open adotption. I'll be talking about the new baby or something we talked about and the other person will be dumbfounded. My boys birthmoms wanted semi-open adoptions and then completely closed them. I respect the pain they may be going through, but I know my sons will have qestions that won't be answered soon enough. My daughter will always have access to her birthmom. We love A's birthmom, we love our son's birthmoms. I hope you get some recognition on Mother's Day. Last year (her first) I did not know whether it would cause more pain to say something or not. I learned my lesson when the phone rang and SHE was wishing ME a happy Mother's Day. I vowed right then to make sure she knows how much we care! Good Luck. I will be thinking of you and all the other birthmothers this weekend! God Bless!
Becky
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