[pebbz]

wow what intelligent teens we have these days! i think it's wonderful that this 15 year old was so moved by this video!

our kids should be educated about rape and the post-stress involved. our kids should know that there are options out there and they should be able to form their own opinions. i think it's wonderful to show a video like this one being discussed. it shows that there is an option involving life! maybe not always be seen as something positive coming from a rape but deffinately something meaningful and kind.
i was sexually assaulted while i was at work and mentally blacked out for several minutes...i dont know what happened in those minutes i may never be able to recall, i was practically naked and felt horribly dirty and so full of shame....but i didnt get pregnant. if i had i would have never murdered an innocent human. i know this will stir up alot of crap by saying that (and boy do i ever love to express my opinions lol), but this is just my thoughts on the issue. when someone is sexually assaulted or raped there is alot of trauma involved. it can be very trying for the next year (and more! i am still dealing w/ it 2 years later) and if that person is pregnant it can be even worse. just because you were hurt doesnt mean you have to carry on the pattern of hurt and kill a baby. carry the baby through and if you cannot love that child and nuture that child after birth there are many families who will and can. no, i am not trying to say "give me your baby, i can love him/her when you can't" (besides, we are interested in adopting special needs /older kids/siblings). we did talk about what happened when i was assaulted and why i couldnt remember those several elusive moments. we talked about what we would do if i was pregnant. we had already decided to adopt and we were really torn about this assault and what it would mean if i were pg. it would mean carrying a baby for 9 months...it would mean putting our adoption on hold and giving that baby up for adoption ...because...honestly....i dont think i couldve looked at that child every day and loved him or her like i shouldve. i hate the person who hurt me. i live about 20 minutes from him and it scares me every time i go to that side of town. i am afraid i will see him when i am driving down the road or going to the store. i am afraid of being alone while i am out in case i should run across him....but i have NEVER been afraid that i wouldve killed that innocent child. i know where i stand on that issue and thank God i have run out of things to say!!!! lol...have fun reading this one people! sorry it's so long...sometimes i just have to talk about what happened to me. i feel better now anyway...

marian