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There are always going to be people who ask questions. I try to separate the ones from people who are concerned about what happened to my kids from those who are just downright nosy and rude.
With our families & close friends, we chose to disclose a few details of my kids' pasts because we wanted to be sure they all understood why my kids might say something or do something in relation to their past and wanted the family to know what to say in response. My family needed to understand why they can't give my kids certain things, the food issues, etc. because they have a relationship with my children. However, I did not share too many details as I feel my kids have a right to their privacy.
For others, I don't explain anything. Sometimes the "why do you ask?" response is a really good one because most people will just move onto something else. And if they persist, sometimes I'll say "As I've said before, we don't discuss that and I'd appreciate it if you could please respect my family's privacy." A lot of times, I completely ignore the round a bout ways people sometimes pry and move onto a completely different topic. In other words, I pretend not to "get it", if you know what I mean. And yes, there have been times where I've simply just said "it's none of your business." I don't feel it's being rude when protecting the best interest of your children.
Congratulations on your family!
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