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Nosy people
hello all. I am currently foster adopt legal risk for 2 little boys. Ages are 8 mos. and almost 3 years old. Hubby and I dealt with loss of 2 babies (ectopic) and then 5 years of fertility treatments and such, so pretty much everyone knows our struggle to build a family. I do not tell people that this is a legal risk situation because I believe that people would be constantly gossiping about it. I just tell people that we are in the process of adopting these babies and let it go at that. There are those though that just want to hear the 'dirt' about everything. What about the parents, where are they from, are there any health issues. I try very hard to let people know that these are things we don't discuss but then you have the sly people who ask in a round about way and those are the ones I have issue with. I was always very open about our fertility issues and our journey to get to here but now I have these boys' privacy to protect along with our own. How do you deal with this without being rude? There is also the issue that the boys have a 1/2 sister who has severe problems and whom we will not be adopting and I dont know when we will have contact. I am sure that would really set the tongues to wagging. My main problem with that is that we were initially told that it would be a sib group of 3 but cw was confused as the girl is not available for adoption at this time and we don't feel we would be the best placement for her. I don't want people asking questions about her so I don't mention her but then I feel bad for acting like she dosent exist.
Anyhoo, let me know your thoughts.
Kathy
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