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Your daughter's questions should be answered, and yes, she should be told that she is adopted. You don't want family members letting it slip etc. and give her reason to be angry with you for keeping secrets. It's much better that she hear about it from you and dad.
However, at this age, there's no reason to go into the details of her bfather. She doesn't need to hear about his sexual abuse etc. That would be in my mind, more damaging to hear.
I don't know the exact words I would use. When my kids ask questions about their parents who neglected them, I usually say things along the lines of "they loved you but couldn't take care of you because they had problems." "Sometimes people make bad decisions and they can't take care of their children." Age appropriate word usage, of course. For your daughter, maybe you can just say "your bdad made wrong decisions and it wasn't safe for you or me to stay with him" etc.
I would also then finish the discussion with focusing on her adad and say how much he loves her and it's so great that you both found such a special man who loves us and wanted to be a family"
Hopefully there will be others on the forum who have gone through similar situations and can help with more exact explanations.
Crick
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