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I couldn't say it better myself, except to add that you'd better tell her, because if you don't you run the risk that someone else will.
I grew up with a girl in a similar situation. Here bdad had emotional problems and eventually committed suicide, I believe. Her dad is one of the greatest guys around. At her wedding, they had pictures of each generation getting married: his parents and grandparents, her parents and grandparents. The picture of her parents was of the ones that raised her. She did eventually meet her bdad, but never had much of a relationship with him. When her bdad died, her aunt got in touch with her, and she does have a relationship with her aunt now (she will be 34 this year).
Hang in there. The important thing is that you are both out of that situation and you now have a great husband and dad in your lives.
Xanny
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