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You have to tell her the truth, though at this point not the whole truth.
"Sweetie, remember when you asked why daddy wasn't around when you were little? Well, that's because another man made you with me -- he was my husband and we made a baby and that was you!" (I'm assuming she knows where babies come from -- you'd better have that talk too).
"The sad part of this story is that he wasn't a very nice man, and when I realized that he might hurt us, I made him leave. Later, I met Daddy and he fell in love with me and you and we wanted to make a family. "
Assure her that the fact that she was the good thing that came out of your marriage and you can't say it was a total mistake because you wouldn't have her otherwise.
She needs to know because she already has questions. Lying would be worse. You don't need to tell her all the details, just that it wasn't safe to stay married to him.
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