[Birthathome]

Ok, yes, I know I do, (I would do anything not to have to), but when? My DH and I have been together since our daughter was 2 1/2. He adopted her when she was 5--she is now 6. He is the only father she has known. She has commented several times about him not being there when she was little and then mentioned once, "how did you have me if you weren't married?" We've skirted around them, but the reason I don't want to tell her now (or ever, to be honest) is that her biological loser (just can't say father) was a very sick perverted man. He did some awful things to other women when we were married (that I didn't know about) and later I found out he was accused of 'messing' with his sister's daughters. After I kicked him out (dd was 4 months old) his family said, "oh, sure we knew he had problems, but we figured if he married you they would go away". Lovely. Anyway, how can I tell a 6 yr old why he isn't around. Oh, sweetie, you're dad was a perverted weirdo--that's why he's not around. WHY, WHY, WHY DO I HAVE TO TELL HER. I'm just absolutely sick about it. I know I have more questions, but this upsets me so bad i've forgotten half of them. Thank you so much in advance for any advice.