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Old 04-27-2004, 11:09 AM
sfbaymom2000 sfbaymom2000 is offline
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Hi mrbeansmom,

Sounds like you've had two very different experiences with the 14 month old and your adopted daughter. Was there much of a difference in their behaviors during pre-placement visits...i.e. did the 14 month old exhibit these behaviors then? Were you told about the (excessive?) tantrums, etc. by the former foster parents or the child's social workers? I know all toddlers have some tantrums and that all foster children will have attachment issues, but I am trying to get a feel for how much you can expect to know about a given child's behavior problems before placement. By the way, how old is your adopted daughter now? Has she adjusted pretty well?

Also, although I am very new to this process I would totally agree with you that forcing a child to gibe hugs and kisses is NOT the way to go! Good luck to you!

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