[BoredBlonde]

Omigosh, this is so depressing and discouraging. Is every adopted person so bitter and hateful towards people who want to adopt, and I assume towards their own adopted parents, too? My neice is pregnant and has asked my husband and I to adopt her baby. She is still wavering a little, so I am trying not to get my hopes up, and I tell her I will support her in any decision she makes, tho it has been almost 8 years since I have had a baby and my arms ache to hold another one. We would have a totally open adoption, there is no question of it, as all my children will naturally know where the baby came from, and I prefer that anyways. But will this baby be hateful and bitter his whole life, like these people who are posting here? Should I tell my neice that I don't want to adopt, and she should keep her baby? But what if she takes him to an agency instead and gives him to strangers? That would haunt me forever, that we could have kept the baby in the family, but I caused that not to happen. But the more I read in these forums, the more scared I am that this will all blow up in my face someday. If I adopt this child, I plan to love and care for him the same as my other children, but will that be enough? Will he hate me someday for taking him from his mother? Will he commit suicide, do drugs? I know that every human being can choose to do those things, adopted or not, but is there SUCH a huge risk of it? Are there no HAPPY adopted people out there, HAPPY adoptive parents, reasonably content mothers who have given their baby over for someone else to care and provide for? Someone please tell me that there are some! And that they are maybe just not out there looking on websites because they are content and going about their happy lives.... This is SO depressing.