[rbjay]

Ischeen,

Thank you for your kind words and HAPPY Belated Birthday to your son as well!!!!! I started talking to my boys when my oldest son (just turned 13 March 29th) was about 6 and as always on this very day Mommy was really sad and he could not understand why. So, I just told him that today was a special day for a wonderful little girl that Moms misses terribly. Well, for him that was not enough. So, I explained about "his Big Sis" and how Mommy was having some hard times then and that there was these wonderful people that could not have a baby of their own and Mommy gave them a special gift. He was so mature for his age then and now. He was very careful with my feelings and didn't ask for really big details surrounding her. That's him, now, I also have an 8 year old that is the King of all questions asked. He over head a conversation with me and my husband on this same day a year ago. He ran in and asked "Oh, man, a big sister?!" He had a crazed look on his face and I went into it with"Yes, sweety you have a big sister". I don't know how to explain things better than explain them in not so much bad details. I told him that many years ago before Mom and Dad found each other, mom was not in such a good place as she is now. And that there was a family that was very sad that needed a little girl to help them be happy. He asked when he will get to meet her and I told him that she is 14 and when she turns 18 which is 4 more years to go that we will go meet her. I don't know if I am any help, my family is just really open and honest about just about everything. My youngest took that and told everyone at school about his "Big Sis". I try to be honest with them and when they get a little older I will explain the circumstances around her adoption. You are so kind to answer my post, Iwas so lost with out this room and your sweet words. I don't know if I told them right but these are great kids that I can't wait for them to meet her and for me to see her. I hope I am some help.

My prayers are with you and your family,
Thank you,