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So yes, an adoptive parents does need to have the I's, such as I want to parent, I know what lies in store, I am content with the decesion, I want to help other children. And no, a parent should not adopt to blend in, to fit in, to make friends, etc, though these things may happen after adoption, it should be about the child and building a family. There is room for I's, especially, I have a lot to offer and teach a child, though not just material things. I hope I made myself clear, and didn't upset anyone.
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My post was working on the basis that the 'I's that you mentioned were already established.
Also the point I was making was that - if the adoption of my child (or any child) was organised upon the basis that they were adopted due to their needs and welfare being put first and foremost then - what was the point of me going to all the heartbreak of trying to give my child the best life possible by relinquishing him to others who do not put him first and foremost?
As a birthparent I did just exactly that or at least tried to - I completely EXPECT (as in they better had) adoptiive parents to put their adopted children's needs first - which I am sure many do and am also sure a few do not unfortunately, both scenarios which I am sure also happens in non adoptive families, I suppose to be fair. I do expect that little bit more though from adoptive parents (rightly or wrongly).