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I may go about this in a round about way, but I do have a point. Yes, and no is my answer. I remmebr one of the first adoptees I met, as an adult she was an angry one. Her adoptive parents adopted her in her view so that they would "look good to others" I never met her adoptive parents, so i have only her side. I don't think parents should adopt due to any form of pressure from the outside. They should adopt for the child. However, they should not adopt if they do not want to raise children, and only feel they should do it. That kind of peer pressure from others leads to unhappy adoptees and unhappy adoptive parents. So yes, an adoptive parents does need to have the I's, such as I want to parent, I know what lies in store, I am content with the decesion, I want to help other children. And no, a parent should not adopt to blend in, to fit in, to make friends, etc, though these things may happen after adoption, it should be about the child and building a family. There is room for I's, especially, I have a lot to offer and teach a child, though not just material things. I hope I made myself clear, and didn't upset anyone.
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