Hi! I think some of the folks have been a little hard on you, and I'd like to give you a little bit of affirmation. What you're really sayng, I hear, is that you want to adopt but you can't get anybody to even understand your feelings because they're all so intent on bearing biological children. What you should do is find a local group of parents of adoptive children and get to know them. (You should be able to get referrals to such parents from any major adoption agency in your closest big city.) This way, you've got a warm group of like-minded people to visit with and learn from! By the way, I've got a 17-year-old bio daughter, a 3-year-old son from Guatemala and a 6-year-old son living in Guatemala, but hopefully on his way home to me in 4-5 months. Your underlying premise, which I believe is, kids are kids and it doesn't matter how you get them, just so long as you do get them, is true -- at least it has been for me. To me, both pregnancy and adoption are just delivery systems. I also agree with you that genetic relatedness is vastly overrated. There is absolutely no difference, not one single iota of difference, in the way I feel about my two kids. They are both gorgeous, funny, irritating, adorable, maddening, entertaining, frustrating, cuddly, cranky and totally loveable. (Not all at the same time, of course!) So, pursue your dreams with the knowledge that one of the richest parts of life (if not THE richest part) is having kids.