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Originally posted by snow princess
DPEN - I have to say I dont think placing a child for adoption makes a "bmoms life easier" - it didnt mine, nor have I yet talked to a bmom who has felt that way.
Maybe I am wrong in my interpretation of the post, but I thought dpen was posing it as a question and not a fact.
St.IVES - I cant say I agree with you on saying what is best for the child is relinquishment if the mother cant' afford to provide -not in today's times - there are many programs out there to help single moms get on their feet and raise their child if that is what they want. And to most moms it is "wanting to raise their own child" more than a "need to raise their own child". Cool point, Princess, but if mom is able to secure that help, then she CAN afford to support the child, but not everyone qualifies for PA. Then there are those of us who have relinquished because we looked PAST the immediate "quick fix" and saw the broader picture ~ as in the mid to distant future. I do agree with you (in my situation) that I certainly wanted
to parent my birthdaughter more than I needed to.
I could go on about why I see my situation that way, but I don't want to hijack the thread.
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As for the original question, I really think Riley and dpen are basically on the same wavelength. Both agree that the needs of the child are primary. I think Riley is just looking further past the the initial "hierarchy" to the parental rewards (which is most often a given).
It's nearly 3AM and, although I know what I
mean, I'm not sure I'm actually getting it across. I best go to bed and pick it back up tomorrow. Am I even close???
Deb
